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I Choose Love…No Matter What

So much hate in this world today, and it’s difficult to remain fully immune to it sometimes.

At least for me.

Seems there’s madness everywhere I turn. Short tempers, raised voices, bullying, mocking, beatings, murders…

Good grief.

As you may or may not be aware, “go kill yourself” has apparently become an acceptable insult, at least on social media. Most of the punks who spew this kind of garbage wouldn’t have the guts to be so vindictive in person.

Someone dares to have an opinion which doesn’t line up with the majority, and angry fools squeal, “Go kill yourself!”

I suppose these idiots think messages like this are funny:


I’ve typed and retyped a response to these pictures in this blog, each time deleting it. As a Christian, I can’t do it without my VILE anger cascading out, aimed directly at the deranged imbeciles who think this crap is funny .

As someone who has had family members commit suicide, these depraved messages are BEYOND offensive. 

The thing is, people are killing themselves.

I recently read about an adult film actress who, fearing for her own safety, refused to do a sex scene with a man who had been having unprotected sex on film in other pornographic movies.

Turns out her would-be partner acted in a few gay films, so people labeled the young woman a “hater,” and relentlessly harassed her on Twitter.

“Gay hater!” they spat.

“You should be ashamed!!”

“Go kill yourself!” a few wrote.

In December, 2017, 23-year-old August Ames did just that, committing suicide by hanging.

Sad thing is, most people didn’t care because she was a “porn star.” Never mind the fact that her friends all said she was one of the sweetest, kindest people they knew.

Image result for actress crying gif

Even sadder is there was a six-month period when five young, adult film actresses passed away, either by suicide or drug overdose.

You can read about this tragedy here:

But that’s ok, they’re all just “sluts” anyway, right?

How dare we.


In the biblical book of John, chapter eight, a lady was caught in adultery. Not sure why the DUDE wasn’t dragged out in the street and almost stoned to death, as she was, but that’s another story. People felt this precious lady was lower than a dog, and wanted to kill her.

Jesus, however, forgave her. He showed love, when nearly everyone around Him was vomiting hatred and murderous intentions.

But we let our judgmental attitudes decide whose life is precious and whose is not.

It’s like when we hear about the homicide of a female, but breathe a little easier when we hear it was “only” a prostitute.

As if that suddenly makes it acceptable. “They put themselves in that position,” we say. Meanwhile, there is a dad or sister or daughter who was not only dealing with the sadness of their relative being “out on the streets,” but now has to process the fact that this person was killed.

How many of us, when we hear the news of someone dying in our neighborhood or a friend’s family, immediately dismiss it because, after all, it’s “just another drug overdose?”

Families ripped apart by violence, sadness and death, but it’s “just another overdose,” or “just another prostitute,” so it’s cool, right? No biggie.

Shame on us. Who’s to say the desperate lengths we would go to if we were poor, homeless and/or addicted? What if that was YOUR mom? What if that was your sister or best friend from high school?

Anger, strife, contention, hatred…

It’s everywhere. Oddly enough, as I began typing this blog, a song came gently whispering through my speakers…

And they’ll know we are Christians by our love.

Well, how’s THIS for a little dose of reality?

In Matthew 7:2, Jesus said, “For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.”

Additionally, as we just celebrated Dr. Martin Luther King Jr Day this past Monday, I stand with him:

“For I have seen too much hate, and I say to myself that hate is too great a burden to bear. I have decided to love.”
From Martin Luther King Jr’s speech, “Where do we go from here?”

Keep your judgments. Keep your bullying and your violence and your hate.

I’ll dare to be the weirdo who stands up for love, no matter what.

11 comments on “I Choose Love…No Matter What

  1. Great post indeed! I hear you and am with you 100%. I always say “for there go I by the grace of God “.

    I grew up in a ghetto of Chitown and I’ve seen plenty of hurting people. I always knew even back then that there was a reason for their behavior.

    Heck, we are all broken in some way to pass judgment. And, the social media sites that see posts like that; should automatically deactivate those accounts. It’s there responsibility to keep people safe otherwise they deserve to get sued

    Blessings, Emma


    1. Rob Weddle says:

      So true. We seem to forget the fact that, as you say, we are all broken and hurting in some way. My boss always says that “hurting people hurt people.” If we keep that in mind when we deal with people, it will make a huge difference. I have had such anger and depression for so long, I am trying to make it my goal to make the world a little brighter. Even if it’s just in my corner of the world, that will make a small difference. If we all adapted that attitude, think about how much better the world would be.

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  2. And I would stand with you!

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    1. Rob Weddle says:

      Bless you, Carol. Have a great day, and thanks, as always, for the encouragement!

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      1. Thanks Rob. I hope you have a lovely day – don’t let the haters get you down!


      2. Rob Weddle says:

        Yeah, that’s what they want. ‘Tis better to laugh. I’ve never seen anyone more angry than a young lady once who thought I cut her off in traffic. In reality, I just pulled in front of her while driving down a busy road in Springfield, MO, and apparently she took it personal. She had some poor, unfortunate guy with her, and when I looked in my rear view mirror I was surprised to see she was yelling at me (I couldn’t hear her because my music was too loud). I turned and looked at her, pretended to listen for a minute (the light was red, so I put my car in park), and then smiled, laughed and waved at her, as if she was my best friend. Her face turned a shade of red I’d never seen before, and I thought her head was going to explode. Yeah, that was fun.

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      3. Kill ’em with kindness. Sometimes I feel so sorry for them – how unhappy they must be!


      4. Rob Weddle says:

        True. So many are seeking a path to a greater enlightenment, but aren’t even aware of their own misery. I recall when I was in my early 20s, I couldn’t find a job and was working day-to-day with a temporary employment agency. One day another young man and I were assigned to the same place, and almost immediately, he started raggin’ on Christians. I didn’t say anything about it, but swapped stories about music, movies and whatnot, just hangin’ out with him while we worked. Toward the end of the day I mentioned I was a Christian, but not in an accusatory way at all. When we were done that afternoon, he shook my hand and said, “It was good to meet ya, Rob. I tell ya, man, I gotta rethink this whole GOD thing.” That ONE off-the-cuff comment from 30 years ago has turned into my whole life’s goal: to love people and to plant a seed. My hope is that they’ll say, “Dude, I thought I had you religious nuts all figured out, but I gotta rethink this God thing.”

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      5. I believe there are many spiritual paths, sometimes we don’t recognize them though. God has many names, right?


      6. Rob Weddle says:

        True, but the Bible says Jesus is the only way to Heaven. I do think, however, that we’re too quick to judge other people, denominations and religions. We Christians preach that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life, but beyond that, it’s our job to LOVE, not to try and interpret others’ spirituality through our narrow lens.

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      7. I agree, totally. I read a book by a Lutheran minister once about the village of Medjugorje where young people had had visions of Mary. It was an interesting read, but what I most liked was that idea of many paths to the one God. All world religions preach Love and should be respected. thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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