God's intention is not for agony to transform our heart to stone. Life is a beautiful thing, just waiting to be discovered. We need to stop playing the victim, and try and serve others, instead of demanding to be served, and heard. If you've let your struggles make you so self-absorbed you have no time to comfort others, you're long overdue for a change.
We can CHOOSE to be happy; we don't have to let people or circumstances choose our moods for us. Don’t cling to your gloom and despair like a tattered life raft; instead, swim for the shore, spread out the Spiderman beach towel, grab your sunscreen and enjoy the sunshine.