“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
This blog is going to be mainly for the sisterhood of humanity, as it seems many of them are more broken than the men, if you can believe that. It’s tragic. It breaks my heart!
So much beauty, fading into nothingness at the hands of scheming, vile creatures who feel expunging your light can somehow ravage their own darkness. So many broken souls, wandering aimlessly through your days. Seeking hope, light, love and purpose, only to cry yourselves to sleep every night, having not found it.
She-demons clothe themselves as eye candy, and, with condemning eyes and bony fingers, skeptically point out your deepest faults. Meandering from shadow to shadow, they judge harshly, speak condescendingly, laugh disparagingly and alienate completely.
These so-called beauties, with their stunning eyes and black souls.
Would that we could see them from the inside out, as God does. Would that we could catch the occasional glimpse of their contemptible heart.
You may have one in your life. Whether in your real life, or the counterfeit identity you reserve for social media, it seems we all have at least one person determined to obliterate our hopes and dreams.
They annihilate our self-esteem, until we seemingly have no choice but to crawl away in tears.
“So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
Whether or not you agree with my belief that we are all made in God’s image, you are here. You are alive with visions and desires, just waiting to burst to life at the right moment in time.
Or perhaps, you have no need of the she-demon, for you are your own worst critic. You scowl at that pathetic image staring back at you in the mirror. You don’t need anyone else to do it; YOU take every opportunity to tear YOURSELF down. Self-evisceration, loathing your very existence.
In reflective, shopping mall doors or the occasional snapshot, you detest even a passing self-glance.
“People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7b)
The time has come for you to begin to heal. For your own survival, you must seek restoration for your soul.
It’s time for you to learn to smile again. It’s time for you to learn to love yourself. It’s time for you to find your own beauty.
Your body is not the enemy.
Your looks are not the foe you should be trying to vanquish.
Your family, friends, clothes or car do not determine your self-worth.
Only YOU can do that.
It is imperative you repeat the following truths to yourself, until you are convinced of your exquisiteness:
“I am not ugly.”
“I am not worthless.”
“I am beautiful.”
“I am whole.”
“I am vibrant.”
“I am worthy.”
“I am enough.”
Say that last one again:
“I am enough.”
It’s true, you know?
You were created for a specific purpose, even if you haven’t yet discovered it. You are not an accident.
“(God,) You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.” (Psalm 139:13-15)
We must stop judging ourselves by fleeting, counterfeit, media images. They are a lie! The fat is trimmed from even the thinnest of women, removing wrinkles and adding eye color. Even Hollywood “goddesses” don’t look like their movie posters!
It’s rumored Jenny McCarthy, when she looked at her pictures in a calendar a few years ago, laughed, and said, “I wish I really looked like that!”
You’ve heard it said, “Beauty comes from within,” and it’s so true. Making yourself the best YOU possible is a good thing, but comparing yourself to others can only lead to heartbreak.
“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” (1 Peter 3:4)
It is essential you cease comparing yourself to others. That person probably also hates themselves; they’re just better at hiding it.
If you have nobody in your life to lift you up, then become the person you so desperately long for.
Then go out into the world and BE the shining light you were meant to be.
Find your way back to the easy smiles of childhood, when physical appearances were irrelevant.
And, lest you’ve not heard me say it today:
Never give up…
Never give in…